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A Montreal Weekend

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I’m going to be at this. With lots of rope. Tying pretty much whoever I can get my hands on.

I was in Montreal a couple weekends ago, working an event for my day job. My responsibilities ended on Friday night, so Saturday before my train left I went for a wander in Montreal. My first goal was to find the Fetiche Store on Ste-Catherines E and buy some more rope. I had green in mind, and I knew that they sold rope from Gargoyle Toes there. I’d bought his rope before, while in Montreal, and have been very happy with it. Of course, when I got to the location – closed. Shut down. Big For Rent sign in the window. Crap. This is what happens when you don’t do the research! So then I got back on the metro, headed out into Westmount to visit my very pregnant and dear friend Steph at her and her partner David’s new bike shop. While standing outside of the shop by the canal, I managed (?!?!) to pick up a wireless signal from somewhere and found out the shop had moved to a new location on Ontario street – essentially just up the road from where I just was.

Coffee with Steph finished and I got back on the metro (this was a mission, now) and in what seemed like no time found myself at the shop. Time was getting a bit tight to make my train, but I can’t be in a fetish store without doing a bit of browsing. So. I browsed. As I was, a lovely woman in a gorgeous corset walked up to me and started speaking to me in clear but rapid french. Most of which I actually caught. I thanked her – in English – and told I her I wanted the rope for sure but was going to look around for a bit. She switched to my language (thankfully, I wasn’t quite in the mood to murder French at the moment) and said when I was ready just let her know.

I brought the rope up to the cash (it was really all I was looking for in the moment) and about a half hour later walked out with some new dark green 6mm hemp. The half hour was filled with some good solid geek conversation, on multiple levels and always a delight, and ended with me getting an invitation to come to the event and basically deliver up some ropey eye candy in exchange for a free pass. I told her I was more than interested, caught my train, came back to Toronto & booked the time off of work. Done.

So now I’m looking at my rope tree and figuring out what bag am I going to use to bring all of this with me? Do I have enough? Should I, in fact, buy more? (That’s a dangerous question right there…)

I am very much looking forward to this event. Not only ‘cos I get to be tying new people all weekend, but also as some of my favourite people will be there. Andrea Zanin of Sex Geek is teaching two workshops; one called “Hands On Play”on Thursday and another called “Pleasures of Female Fisting” on Saturday. Also on Saturday, Midori is holding a workshop called “Scene Dynamics and Psychology of Rope Bondage” which I’m hoping to get to. The line-up of workshops is pretty fantastic – you can check it out here, in English.

Should be a fun weekend. I’ll be posting from Montreal, as much as I can.

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 Taken during a suspension of A, in a photo shoot with kk. Rope courtesy of Monk, Gargoyle Toes & my own hands.

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Chat: Fluid terminology

m. says:
Mrow.
Perhaps, under this situation, I am a sub?  By allowing you to tie me up, byyyy allowing you to take control over the situation….?

(control) says:
no. you’re not nor have you ever been submissive to me.
I know this ‘cos I have played with people who have been
who are
you’re a bottom but that is rather different

m. says:
So there really hasn’t been moments where I have been submissive, ever?  Really?
bottoming, yes.

(control) says:
I honestly cannot recall one.
even when I was really beating the hell out of you

m. says:
hm.

(control) says:
you weren’t submissive at all

m. says:
I agree.

(control) says:
do YOU feel like you’ve subbed to me ever?

m. says:
I think so – around the time we started seeing each other.
there were moments but very few.
unless I’m getting them confused with bottoming.

(control) says:
might be
like, you let me play with you
use you sometimes
but the power exchange isn’t the same.

m. says:
using – wouldn’t that be you doming?

(control) says:
you get joy, I think, out of the sensation of being used more than the willingness and drive and instinct to surrender

m. says:
truth.
okay, that clears it up a bit.

(control) says:
the thing is, the terms are fluid.
or they are used as such
bottom/sub/slave
but they are not the same at all
I would say you’re a strong masochistic bottom
who might be a switch for the right person

m. says:
for me, being used by you is subing.  Because I do things with you that I wouldn’t do with anyone else…because I’m not willing to surrender to them.
I’ve allowed you to use me.  That’s definitely not something I do with anyone else.
masochistic bottom – that’s probably the most accurate description I could think of so far.

(control) says:
it seems right.
but I do get what you mean about subbing to me
I still think there’s a difference
somewhere in there
I wonder if the letting me use you is more connected to the masochistic part
as its the best way to get the feelings you want

m. says:
well, for me, it’s subbing – but by definition in its true sense, I probably haven’t ever been submissive.

(control) says:
I get you.

haiku:

now: how can I float
with my body weighted by
an amber-wrapped heart