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What’s The The Deal With Bondage?

control — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 16:55:00 +0000

The above is from PRINT magazine’s 2004 sex issue, a detail of this image here. Words and illustration by Danny Gregory, about his visit to Berlin’s international fair for the sex trade.

I just want to say for the record that I DID NOT POSE FOR THIS IMAGE. That’s just another bald rigger in a black t-shirt with a black cuff on his wrist.

Thanks to The Madame for sending this my way.

SneakPeek

control — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 18:22:01 +0000

So this past Tuesday was our last Keyhole Session of the season and it was a pretty fantastic night. Not that that means we’re going to be totally absent over the summer. In August, there’s talk of doing another Girls on Film session, seeing as how the first one was so successful. Nothing’s confirmed yet, but once it is I’ll be posting about it here & elsewhere.
Before that happens, however, we have this: SneakPeek. From July 8th to July 13th we’ll be showing off some of the best artwork that’s come out of the past 55 Keyhole Sessions at the Gladstone Art Bar, here in Toronto. Click through to find more information about both the exhibition and our Gala opening on July 10th. There’s a chance, space & time allowing, that I’ll be doing a bit of a demo at the opening. Hopefully I can find myself a little corner I can tie in…

Spending Time With Sexy Brains

control — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 02:23:40 +0000

Sometimes all of this thinking and talking and geeking about sex & technology pays off. My lovely friend Danielle has offered me a spot on a panel at Northern Voice 2010, a personal blogging and social media conference happening in Vancouver this upcoming May 7-8. It’s the 6th annual incarnation of the event and something I’m really excited to potentially be a part of.
My potential co-panelists make the whole thing even more exciting. Dylan Ryan, my performance partner for Femina Potens’ most recent Art of Restraint event; Courtney Trouble director & entrepreneur from nofauxxx.com and Little Pink Book; and Jiz Lee, the prolific blogger and performer from jizlee.com. All of whom I would be totally honoured to share some speaking time with.
Obviously the conference’s focus on all forms of social media make it kind of an ideal fit for all of us. My blogging and social media engagement have kind of gone hand-in-hand, in many ways, with my sexual development and exploration. To say that my online community connections and support structure has played a part in my growing understanding of myself as a sexual being would be an understatement. Those connections, my online engagement, has been integral to that understanding, and continues to be so.
Then there’s my professional engagement with social media. I work for a company here in Toronto that produces digital media events, and this year, for the first time since I started working for the company, we’re addressing the adult industry head-on. Quite frankly I’m happy we’re doing it, finally, as I think it’s been lacking from our events. I feel like you can’t have a conversation about online social engagement without talking about sex, and yet, it seems to be a subject pretty easily ignored – or at least laughingly dismissed – at most digital media events. For Northern Voice to be wanting to address this topic head-on is pretty fantastic of them, and I for one look forward to the chance to throw my voice and thoughts into the discussion.
There’s a travel bursary that Northern Voice is offering, to participants in need. Flying across the country isn’t so cheap, and the travel bursary would help a lot. Hopefully I’m an attractive enough potential speaker to make me worth the grant.
Photo by @kk

Tonight!

control — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 19:18:23 +0000

Another fun bit of publicity for myself and The Keyhole Sessions! We will be appearing on tonight’s episode of Sex Matters, hosted by my old friend Cynthia Loyst.
Our appearance on her show came about pretty smoothly, and relatively quickly. I found Cynthia’s Twitter account (@sexmatterstv) through a re-tweet from the Madame a couple weeks ago. I’d appeared on another show for her a few years ago, talking about my sexual history & philosophy along with others. That was a lot of fun, and very in line with the sort of conversations she and I usuall have, so it was something I’d always known I’d like to do again. So obviously once I realized this was Cynthia’s show, I DM’d her on Twitter and asked if she’d be interested in doing a story on Keyhole. The response was quick, and positive, so we started to set it all up.
Cynthia came by the Sessions this past Tuesday night, to interview the Madame and myself about putting the Keyhole Sessions together, as well as ask me a couple of things about why I love rope bondage so much (argh, talking on camera, I have to get better at that…). Besides being interrupted MORE than once by a very annoying fire alarm (thanks to the smoke machine being used in the other room at the Great Hall), the shooting came off pretty well. Cynthia stuck around with her cameraman Ramen to shoot some of the actual session and interview some of the artists in attendance, as well as getting footage of me tying both AJ & Dolores backstage. I’m VERY curious to see how that turns out. The fact that I don’t have cable means I won’t be seeing the episode tonight, but soon.
You can check it out on CP24 tonight at 10:30pm, and again on Saturday night on Star TV. Comments are appreciated, here: let me know what you thought of the segment!

Tie Me Up

control — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 17:59:25 +0000

Thanks to lolix for the video tip!

fashion>function (2)

control — Sat, 16 May 2009 22:27:03 +0000

Another example of overtly rope-based fashion. From Ars Vivendi, brought to my attention by violetwhite.

BDSM On The Air*

control — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 03:24:22 +0000

A while back Madison Young had twittered (yes, I do it, face it, we all do it) about a radio interview she’d just done for PersonalLife Media, and that she’d send out a link to the episode once it went live. Last week, she sent out the link, I grabbed it over the air on my iPhone (yes, I have one, face it, we all want one) and listened to it on my way into work.

Not even considering the little thrill I got from listening to a discussion of D/s on the streetcar, it’s a great interview, and actually sets up many of the things she’ll probably be covering in the Zen Submissive workshop at Northbound. She references the workshop specifically in the interview, in fact. After I heard it, I emailed her and asked if it was something she thought those who would be attending the workshop should listen to.

Her response was that I should feel free to share it with anyone who has signed up or who might be interested in the workshop… but that no homework is necessary.

Here’s the link. If you don’t feel like listening to it, the entire interview is transcribed. I do recommend giving it a listen, no matter what where on the D/s spectrum you plant your feet. There’s certainly things I’ll be thinking about, from this, the next time I get my hands and my focus on someone.

(*internet style)

fashion>function

control — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 19:03:35 +0000

This image courtesy of Mistress Matisse. This dress is being sold at Saks Fifth Avenue for 1,495$, in case anyone is curious enough or has the money to burn.

I’d be very curious to know how the discussion leading to the naming of the dress went. It’s a nice dress. I suppose I can see how the word shibari could almost apply. Almost. If you sort of lean your head to one side and squint.
Okay actually no I can’t.
The question, now that I think more about it, that this dress brings up for me is how many people who would buy and wear this dress – and undoubtedly talk about the name of the dress whenever someone comments on it – how many of those people would even consider having someone put rope on them? Even for purely aesthetic purposes? Pay me a quarter of what the dress costs and before you leave for your fancy dress party I’ll tie some black rope over a white dress and end up with something far more flattering.

Public : Stolichnaya

control — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 16:57:54 +0000

This one will attract smoking fetishists and sensory deprivation seekers alike.

Taken somewhere in NYC by a.

Public : What’s Your Fetish?

control — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 16:54:21 +0000

One of the things I love most in this picture is the opposition between the orange Post No Bills poster above and the purple Fetish poster below. Turns out “The Fetish Collection” is a clothing line represented by the rapper Eve. A clothing line that, really, isn’t so fetishy at all.

Taken somewhere in NYC by a.